Singleness.
Do we even know what that tricky word means? Of course we do! It means lonely, no boyfriend, no status, no potential, or I’m not pretty enough , etc. I think we all know what that means right?!? But is that really what it means?
DEFINITELY NOT!!
First of all I wanna say this: Do not ever feel bad about being single!! Singleness is a gift from God and we should use this “singleness” time to draw closer to Him not farther apart because we should never single Him out of our lives!
Taking a look around, our world wants us to think of the things that I wrote at the very top. Our world favors physical over spiritual, lust over the true meaning of love, and falling temptation over being right. This is the many reasons why our soul will fall into destruction. I can say for myself that while scrolling on Pinterest and making a cute couples goal board is all fun and cute ( I can raise my hand on this cause I have one haha!) but is this really what my, your mind, and my Pinterest board should be full of? Should it be full of the worlds ideas and temptations on what our worth is based on? a man/ boy by our side in aesthetic pictures?
Now don’t take that I’m saying a man is wrong cause we can definitely have crushes and people we like and I’m definitely in no way a feminist, but we do need to consider that we are all flesh in will all die one day. So ask yourself ... am I hoping and putting my future, my life , my eternity in a person or someone I really like who is also fleshy person, like me ,who will die one day or am I placing it in the hands of not just a man but a powerful God who gave His life for me and knows my tomorrow? We need to stop searching and pacifying our earthly cravings but align our soul,mind and hearts with truth, to want to seek and crave God instead of ourselves.
It is such an amazing thing when God does not immediately give us exactly what we want in the moment, but instead He guides us or even places the things in our lives that we really need. I know it’s hard but He cares so deeply for us and only does what’s best for us and that may be being single. As a 15 year old girl I am definitely way too young to be in any relationship and I don’t know anything about breakups or heartaches but I know I can pursue my relationship with Christ. I know we can cling to the Lord during this season of singleness. My blind eyes have been uncovered to His goodness. In areas where I was once disappointed in God for not granting me my wants because I so want my teenage years to hurry up so I can be whisked off my feet with my forever man, but what we need to have now is to become humbled and incredibly thankful for His work and timing. God is the ultimate protector, so if a relationship within your life does not work according to your plan, turn to God and pursue His plan. He is working in your favor. He is working in your life and He loves every bit of you.
Here are some tips from a great person I know named Hannah B. from Passion to Proclaim who has so great tips to
“ appreciate and utilize your gift of singleness” :
Remember that your worth does not lie in the hands of man, but in the hands of God. Set aside some time for personal self reflection. Ask yourself:
Am I focusing on the Lord and His promises during this season or am I seeking to satisfy the desires of my heart?
Could I honor God and glorify His name more powerfully if I had a partner alongside of me?
Am I able to withstand temptation and say “no” when necessary
Place your faith on the forefront. Establish your relationship with Jesus before you seek to establish a relationship elsewhere. Introduce Jesus first.
Cultivate inner beauty. Use this time to work on yourself and to grow with the Father.
Reflect upon your past encounters. Pin point characteristics you want in a significant other, write them down. Pray upon them and do not settle.
Maintain patience, prayer and praise
Just a reminder that I want to always stick with you. Always view your singleness no matter what as a gift rather than a burden because what do you want to remember your years before marriage as? I’m with ya on this whole single thing and the ideas of His plan in store for you and me is far greater than any of our own.
Isaiah 41:10 Kjv
Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.
Psalm 37:4 Kjv
Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
Psalm 73:25 Kjv
Whom have I in heaven but thee? and there is none upon earth that I desire beside thee.
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